How To Write a Eulogy

A 9 step guide to writing a eulogy that honors your loved one.

Written and recited in praise of a person – frequently someone that is retired, elderly, extremely ill, or deceased – a eulogy is a term of endearment delivered as a speech. In the United States, commonly after a wake, these speeches are delivered at a funeral home.

Where funerals are concerned, however, they are not permitted or allowed at all services. It all depends on any number of factors including religion, culture, country, etc.

But a eulogy can apply to a living person, as well. They can be delivered at retirement celebrations, office parties, birthdays, anniversaries, etc.

1. The History of Eulogies

People first saw the word eulogy used back in the 15th century. They were written and recited for both the living and the deceased, to honor them and in memory of the person.

Today, during a funeral, eulogies can be delivered by a close family member, dear friend, a priest, minister, or some other celebrant.

2. Writing/Reciting a Eulogy

Whenever you compose and recite a eulogy, you must remember that they should be written and delivered with family members, close friends, and loved ones in mind. They are to honor – not dishonor – the deceased. Honesty should be used but accentuate the positive. It is never proper nor recommended that you mock, confuse, or offend those listening.

Other tips for funeral eulogies:

  • Before embarking on eulogy composition, take a moment. Clarify in your mind a list of memories and moments you consider special and meaningful. Every eulogy has a specific tone. Decide before writing it what you want the tone of yours to be. Some are funny, others are serious. Some are long, others more succinct and to the point.
  • As you write a eulogy, make a rough draft. Make sure that it is reviewed and edited before writing the final copy.
  • Before giving your speech/eulogy, practice in front of a mirror or another person.
  • In the delivery of a eulogy, clearly state who you are and how you are related to the deceased.
  • It is both common and recommended that you share your most significant or favorite memories and experiences with the person.
  • Most eulogies have an intro.
  • Feel free to include a short biography of the deceased.
  • Frequently, positive qualities of the deceased are mentioned in a eulogy.
  • Eulogies can be wrapped up with a final goodbye and by offering words of comfort.

3. Plan a Funeral With Our Assistance

At American Heritage Cemetery Funeral Home Crematory, we don't see ourselves as simply a funeral home but as a community gathering place. A place where all are welcome to honor memories and celebrate life. Through the hardest times of your life, we're here to offer guidance, compassion, and understanding. We know that everyone is unique – and their life worthy of honor and celebration.

No matter if you are planning a celebration-of-life, a traditional funeral, or something in between – we are here to lend an outstretched hand.

We can also assist with obituaries and, if need be, help you work your way through the writing of a eulogy.

Contact us today at American Heritage Cemetery Funeral Home Crematory to discuss details, ask questions, or set up an appointment.

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